I have been doing wedding coordinating and planning for over 6 years now and I am still shocked at how much weddings have evolved. Between the food and the flowers, you barely have time to enjoy the journey into the next chapter with your significant other. The worst part is, I was completely guilty of this when my husband and I got engaged! It was too easy to go from zero to bridezilla Pinterest board maniac. Here are some takeaways I took from my experience that I want to share with all my bride-to-be Bossfidence Babes.
1 | Find Your Common Ground
Most women assume that their husband to be could care less about color palettes, themes, photo booths etc., but that is not always the case. I would sit your partner down and find out how he has always envisioned his special day happened (yes, shocker, it belongs to him as much as it belongs to you). Once you find out his likes and dislikes you are able to find a middle ground where you both end up happy and getting the wedding of your dreams.
2 | Don’t Underestimate the Power of a Coordinator
Since I had been coordinating weddings and large scale events for a greater part of my adult career, I coordinated, planned and DIYed that living shit out of my wedding. Down to the point where I was telling my Bridesmaids when to start walking down the aisle while I was in line to walk down myself. Let me tell you something, it takes away from the thrill of it all. I highly recommend hiring at minimum a day of coordinator to take the edge off. He/she will make sure that your vendors arrive, that they know where to set up, if you’re on schedule or behind, etc. TRUST ME, unless your wedding is less than 50 people, a day of coordinator is an absolute must
3 | Date your Fiancé
Some of us forget that life is not all about floral arrangements and seating charts for the 6 months to 2 years we plan our wedding; we still need to date our fiancés! Plan a night once a week or every other week to put the planning on the back burner and enjoy each other, spend time together. This is THE most important part, you’re about to start a new chapter of your life where you will depend on each other more than you ever have. Keep your love alive by starting new habits now and be proactive in your relationship building. Just because you have the foundation doesn’t mean you won’t continue to grow.
Congratulations on getting engaged. Marriage is the absolute best, remember that is is just one day out of the thousands you will spend together as a couple and family. Make sure it is memorable but also don’t forget to keep making memories together outside of your wedding because after the lights turn off, it is just you and your husband forever.
